Week 4, friends! I love the community that is forming here. If you’ve yet to comment or you feel like your thoughts are not relevant or valid—you are WRONG! Everyone has something in their heart to share that most likely will encourage another. So click that little comment button and share your heart, ok? :)
Today starts our topic of dating and romantic relationships. This week we will talk about the dating phase of relationships. Next week we will talk about what I call Intense Relationships (engagement and marriage.) If you are not at the point where you are dating, please don’t tune out either of these weeks. All of this is great stuff to file away in your heart for later.
Two things I want to preface:
1: There are many schools of thought about dating. Many ideas on how dating, courtship, etc. should go. My thoughts in this book aren’t the only ways to look at things. My main focus here is to encourage you to put Jesus in the center of even your romantic relationships.
Be sure to check out the Appendix in the back of Stress Point for some great resources on dating. A few of my good friends wrote some wonderful books on this topic!
2: This chapter is not meant to bash men. PLEASE hear me say that. I want us to focus on our own hearts, our own intentional focus on Jesus as King over our romantic relationships. So, with that comes our responsibility to take a hard look at who we are dating. (See the video blog below)
Alright…let’s get started…
The Real (Video Blog)
The Raw (Discussion Questions)
~Which girlfriend case study do you most relate to? If you can’t relate to any of them, tell us where you stand as far as dating goes.
~Now that we are on Chapter 4 of Stress Point you should have a pretty good idea of what I mean when I say (and more importantly the Bible says) that Jesus is King of Kings. Tell me how you would define this term in regards to dating?
~What do you think about the questions I posed in the video above where I encourage you to take a hard look at who you are dating. Do you have any additional questions to add?
The Relevant (Bible Study Discussion Questions)
~In this chapter we dive into the name of God–Immanuel–God with us. I love this name as it gives me this warm feeling in my heart reminding me that when loneliness overtakes me, God is ALWAYS with me. Romantic relationships can be tough. It is also quite lonely when we are dating and feel like everyone else has their “Prince Charming” but us. Flip to page 81 of Stress Point and re-read where I introduce the name Immanuel-God with us.
Matthew 1:22-23 is where we find the name Immanuel in the Bible. This is where Mary, the mother of Jesus, is told she will give birth our King of Kings.
So all this was done that it might be fulfilled which was spoken by the Lord through the prophet, saying: 23 “Behold, the virgin shall be with child, and bear a Son, and they shall call His name Immanuel,” which is translated, “God with us.”
God with us. Not God up in Heaven sitting remotely on His throne with out a care in the world for our everyday lives. Nope. God WITH us. How much do you love this name of God? I LOVE it.
~How can you worship your Immanuel in your dating relationships today? Whether or not you aren’t dating, how can you look to Immanuel to be your ultimate romancer? (See page 82 of Stress Point.)
~Not for some tough stuff. Don’t cringe…I promise we are all in this together. In Journal 3 (page 88) I had you take a hard look at sex. We will talk more about this in Part 2 next week. Take some time to read through Ephesians 5:3-5
Listen, don’t let any kind of immorality be breathed among you. Any demoralizing behaviors (perverse sexual acts, uncleanliness, greediness, and the like) are inappropriate topics of conversation for those set apart as God’s people. Don’t swear or spurt nonsense. Don’t make harsh jokes or clown around. Make proper use of your words, and offer them thankfully in praise. This is what we know for certain: no one who engages in loose sex, impure actions, and greed—which is just a form of idolatry—has any inheritance in the kingdom of God and His Anointed. (Ephesians 3:3-5 THE VOICE)
Take some time to journal through with the Lord on where you’ve messed up regarding sex. No need to comment here about this. I want this to be some private moments with you and your Immanuel.
Now…for the really good news…
There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit. (Romans 8:1 NKJV)
We’ve ALL sinned. We’ve all messed up in some way or another. Your sexual prommiscuity is no different in God’s eyes than my gossip and mean tounge. My past sexual prommiscuity is no different in God’s eyes than your lie you told your mom. We all fall short of God’s standards. BUT, BUT, BUT…when we
Proclaim Him as our King and Savior
Ask Him for forgiveness
And LIVE OUT! the Kinship of Christ in every area of life…
All our mess ups, our sin is whiped away.
Can I get a HECK YEAH from ya?
Ok, today’s conversation has been pretty intense. Go take some time with your Immanuel. Really dig into the journal questions and converse with your King. Then come back here and share your thoughts!
Love you girls!