Raise your hand if this week you’ve been encouraged that, yet again, you are NOT ALONE in your stress over dating and relationships in general?? Me me me me!
I’m seriously loving all of the advice and encouragement that YOU ALL are offering up to EACH OTHER. Isn’t our God so much fun? That we can WORSHIP HIM together and have a neat time doing it?!
I want to introduce you to another one of my awesome mentors, Lynn Cowell. Lynn is the REAL DEAL. She has a heart for young women and speaks with candor covered with the love of Jesus. She will tell you the TRUTH! Love her.
I asked Lynn to share some of her wisdom on dating. Girls…get ready…this is some GOOD STUFF!
Embarrassed is exactly how I should feel when it comes to my history with guys. When I liked a guy, I didn’t just let it go; watch how things played out. No way! I did whatever it took to get his attention. “Just so happen” to be by when he got off work. “Run into each other” at the ball game. I was the worst! And I didn’t act this way for just a week or so. Nope. The crush that crushed me last seven years. Seven years of chasing someone who wasn’t chasing me.
I sure wish that someone had been up front with me; bold even. If a guy likes you he’ll let you know. If he doesn’t, he’s either not that into you or he has issues with confidence and courage.
Let me be the friend I never had: if he doesn’t like you, face it. Move on. Stop stalking his Facebook. Quit following his tweets. Bypass the Starbuck’s when he works. Don’t look desperate like I did! You’re not desperate. You’re a girl who is madly loved by the king of it all, perfectly and unconditionally. You don’t need a guy to notice you in order to feel valued. There is one who notices you so much the Bible says he knows how many hairs are on your head!
If this guy doesn’t have the courage or confidence to at least talk to you, he needs to get some! You can’t do it for him! You can’t make him notice you or like you.
You don’t want to date a wimp do you? Are you so desperate for a boyfriend you’ll settle for a guy that you have to lead and call all the shots for? Not me.
You know what happened after I stopped chasing him. He grew up. He realized that what he wanted was the type of girl I was…and he came after me. He pursued me; the way it should be. Six weeks later, we were engaged.
Now ask yourself: what type of guy do I want to attract? One who honors and fears God? One who comes after me; is crazy about me?
But it seems there are no guys out there that are man enough, godly enough, to want a godly girl! What’s a girl to do?
You become a magnet.
You become a magnet because if you want to attract this type of guy, you will have to be this type of girl.
Become that magnet by spending time in God’s word; allowing Jesus’ challenges to change you. Live out magnetic characteristics such as love, confidence, and unselfishness. Start a revolution by bringing back things like being classy and acting respectable. A radical girl like that might just get the attention of a radical guy.
Be the magnet God calls you to be and leave the guy thing up to God!
Lynn Cowell is a Proverbs 31 speaker and author of “His Revolutionary Love; Jesus’ Radical Pursuit of You”. She loves the mountains, well-worn sweatshirts and anything that combines chocolate and peanut butter. This summer she’s celebrating 25 years of marriage to the guy she’s been crushing on since 6th grade.
Alright…so…what do you think??? Leave a comment!