Week 5! Halfway through and I am having a blast with you girls!
Intense relationships: Relationships that go to the “next level” in heart matters, in engagement and even marriage. If I said it once, I will say this again and again and again: If you aren’t at this “level” of relationships, please don’t skip this chapter of Stress Point. Oh how I wish I had these life lessons filed away in my heart prior to getting into my intense relationship (marriage). If you are single, you have an opportunity to let God pour into you His TRUTH. If you are already in an intense relationship, if you’ve already made life mistakes like the ones I’ve shared in this chapter, it is NOT too late to turn things around!
We are in this together, right?!
***If you are just joining us, so glad to have you! Be sure to check out the Stress Point Online Study archives to catch up. Take your time, we aren’t going away anytime soon so don’t feel like you have to rush through the book.
Soak it in, make time for the journal questions. Hash out your thoughts in conversation with the Lord.
Let’s get started…
The Real (video blog)
The Raw (Discussion Questions)
~Take a look at the girlfriend case studies. While you may or may not relate exactly to them, I’m wondering if there is one little detail about those case studies that stick out to you. Do you see any heart changes or behavior changes that you might need to make in light of these examples?
~In Journal 1 (page 101) I asked you to write out your personal definition of an intense relationship. That is, what does the “next level” look like to you verse the dating phase of romantic relationships?
~On page 104-105 I introduce the triangle illustration. Would love to know your thoughts on this:
Though you might attend church together, pray together, and talk about your faith together, neither one of you should depend on the other’s faith to sustain your own, individual worship of the Lord.
A faith that depends on another human’s relationship with the Lord is only as strong as the inevitable mistakes that human makes. It’s a fact. Our relationship with the Lord is weakened when it is dependent on the faith of our significant other. Just as your faith is not always exceptionally strong, neither is his faith. We all fail God at some point. Therefore, you and I must develop our own stuff with God separate from our guy’s stuff. (Stress Point page 104-105)
The Relevant (Bible Study Discussion Questions)
~So I promised last week that we would talk about the S-E-X word…duh duh duuuuh (again with the scary music sound effects??) But seriously, let’s dig into this. In the Finding Focus section of this chapter we talked about boundaries that my friend Shelby set with her boyfriend and then fiancé. On page 113 I started the convo about NO SEX before marriage. Here are the verses I listed to back this up:
Hebrews 13:4; 1 Thessalonians 4:3, 4, 7; 1 Corinthians 7:2
Take some time to look up these verses so you can hide them in your heart if/when the temptation arises. These are cold, hard TRUTH that is culturally un-popular and they even enrage some. But, if we are determined to LIVE OUT! the Kinship of Christ and follow our Jesus in every area, this topic must not be skipped over.
What are your thoughts on setting physical boundaries right from the start in romantic relationships as my girlfriend Shelby did?
***If you’ve crossed these lines, please please please know that when you are in Christ, when you decide that He is your King and Savior, know that you are a new creation. Start fresh. No guilt…I promise. Even more importantly, God promises this:
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. (2 Corinthians 5:17 ESV)
Be sure to re-read page 113 for some real encouragement on starting fresh.
~Take a minute to read my personal story in the Waiting At The Throne section. Again, this story was written for you to START out relationships (any relationship, in fact) with the concept that NO ONE should be put on a pedestal above God. In light of my story, how do you respond, personally to this verse:
If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. 3 For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory. (Colossians 3:1-4 ESV)
How would you apply this to dating/romantic/intense relationships?
Now it is your turn! Share your thoughts on anything above or anything that is on your heart and mind. Can’t wait to hear what you have to say.