One Sister to Another Part 3-It’s Just Business

***REPOST from September 2010***
This is part one of a series of ideas I want to share from my PAST experience. I’m a girlfriend who wants to share so that you, my friends, might learn from me rather than deal with the heartache yourself.

I’ve been in the corporate world for going on eight years now and I’ve learned a few things along the way:

How to apply the long last lipstick that will get me through a day’s worth of sales calls.
How to apply the right amount of self tanner to look like I’m wearing panty hose when I’m actually not.
How to apply said tanner sans streaking so the “panty hose” look real.
How to close the sale before they realize I’m actually closing the sale.
How to look cute and smile while still coming across as professional.
But the biggest lesson I have learned is that ITS JUST BUSINESS.
The coporate world is full of self promoters who scratch their way up the career ladder. I have witnessed my share of those who broadcast their wins loud enough for their boss’s boss’s boss to hear. I have also witnessed my share of those who distort the magnitude of their latest project to plump up their end of year review. To be honest, I know these people are rewarded and I’m not going to say they probably don’t deserve it either. But at what cost?
The cost of self promotion for me is the extra energy it takes to make known my accomplishments when frankly, they speak for themselves. The cost of poking my head out to play Nosey McNoserson while investigating my coworker’s latest and greatest for the only outcome of doing it better myself is just too tiring. How do I know this? I’ve been there. It got me nowhere.
A friend of mine told m something a year ago I’ve applied to my corporate job. She advised me to “keep my head down, work hard and God will recognize me as He sees fit.”
Keep my head down.
Work hard on the task at hand.
Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing.
God will bless it.
Just as Jesus said He was about His Father’s business in Luke 2:49 You too are about your Father’s business in the corporate world. A true success that I believe God honors is when we focus on what we can do at that moment and do it with excellence. The business world is full of fakers, so being about your Father’s business with authenticity, honesty and humility already sets you up to navigate the career path with success.
Keep your head down, sister!
Lets brainstorm together and come up with ways to be successful at work with out the draining act of self promotion. What are some ways that you are about your Father’s business and stay focused on the task at hand rather than your office mate’s win at work?

The King can handle my emotions…

**Repost from January 2011***

 

My blood boiled while I folded the laundry.  The poor old, ratty college t-shirt I folded, refolded and smacked around took the brunt of my anger.  At first I let the scenario that caused this outrage to swirl around my brain.  Then a dialogue in my mind regarding every word said only fueled the steam that spewed out of my ears.  Remember the old cartoons where the man was so mad steam came out of his ears and fire out of his eyes?  If you haven’t gotten the picture yet…that was me.

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Extending Grace

We could talk all day long about the beautiful word GRACE in regards to Jesus and His death on the cross so you and I are forgiven for our sins. We could talk all day long, lingering on the word GRACE as we let it melt into our hearts and and break away the walls that keep us from living a life totally at the throne of our King.

It is GRACE that God pours out on us even though we fail Him every day.

It is GRACE that God pours on us even though we don’t fully understand why He forgives the ugliest parts of our heart.

It is Grace that God pours out on us because He loves us with a fierce and jealous love. His GRACE welcomes us back into the presence of the Almighty King after we’ve walked away and lived in our own self-gratifying manner. 

It really doesn’t stop there, though. It doesn’t stop with us accepting that GRACE, living our life for Him and feeling good about it. We are called to EXTEND GRACE.

Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times. {Matthew 18:21-22}

I encourage you to keep reading on in Matthew 18 and the Parable of the Unmerciful Servant. How often do we quickly forget the great GRACE God poured out on us when someone else wrongs us or hurts our heart? It is tempting to allow ourselves to go down the road of anger — maybe rage — plotting and planning how we will prevail in the ugly situation. But Jesus is unequivocal in His commands that we are to forgive and keep forgiving because HE FIRST forgave us.

As I’ve worked through the concept of EXTENDING GRACE, God has given me a lens to look through in order to attempt to peek behind the motives of those in need of my GRACE. Sometimes I’ve looked through that lens of GRACE to see a heart that is hurting; the only way they know how to proceed is by lashing out at others. Sometimes I’ve looked through that lens of GRACE to see that intentions are not mean or vicious, but that there are other circumstances factoring into behaviors– things in the bigger picture.

Ask God to give you a lens of GRACE to look through so that you might obey the Seventy-Seven times command in Mathew 18.

 

EXTEND GRACE…

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~When someone cuts you off and flips the bird in rush hour traffic on the way home from a hectic day. Look through the lens of GRACE and say a prayer that person might find rest and relaxation after such a stressful day.

~When a friend ditches you for a “better” more exciting Saturday night. Look through the lens of GRACE and forgive, knowing that rejection by a friend doesn’t define you.

~When your boss passes you over for a promotion. Look through the lens of GRACE, continue to work your hiney off and be a great employee. Know that God’s got your back and has great things in store for those who love and adore Him.

~When you and your sibling have a knock down, blow out fight. Look through the lens of GRACE and ask for forgiveness. Do whatever you can to patch up the situation. Family is one of God’s wonderful gifts.

It’s not always fun or pleasant to step back, take a breath, look through the lens and EXTEND GRACE. The immediate gratification of anger or revenge tempts and draws us into a place that will lead to only darkness and separation from God.

Who do you need to EXTEND GRACE to today?

So, what do you think? Is this a toughy for you? Leave a comment and let’s chat about it!