Stress Point Week 3: Body Image

Welcome to week three, the topic most dreaded by probably 99.999999999% of us and myself included. I’ve said numerous times how I DID NOT want to write this chapter. I did not want to sit down and do the video blog. I did not want to sit here and write this study post. Why? Because it is so very raw and personal for me.

But, I realize that I must put aside my fear of this topic because we have a GOD, our Elohim–Creator (we will talk about this in a second) who is bigger than our body image fears. Deep down in my heart I KNOW that I don’t want my body image to create a wall between my beat up heart and the love that He is ready to pour all over my insecurities. Do you know that, too? If not…it is ok. We are going to work on this!

Before we get started…

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The Real (Video Blog)

The Raw (Discussion Questions)

~After reading the girlfriend case studies in Stress Point, do you identify at all? 

~As I mentioned at the beginning of the chapter, let’s put aside topics about how the media portrays women and how it effects our personal image of our own bodies. I’d like our focus to be with what we can change, which is how we see our bodies in light of Elohim, our Creator.  It is so hard for me, like I already said, to talk about this subject in such a personal manner. Is it hard for you, too? If so, why?

~In Journal 2 on page 63 I asked something of you that might seriously freak you out. I asked you to list out THREE things you love about your body. If you are comfortable with this will you be so bold as to make a declaration here, on this site, on the world wide web, ONE of the things you love? This will serve as a form of worship to our King as we say, “God, our Elohim, I recognize that You are my Creator. You make all things beautiful. I honor you with these three things that I love…”

Here I will go first…I love my hazel eyes. They change colors depending on what I wear and I just think that is so creative of God to give me eyes He crafted so beautifully.

(whew…that wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be!)

Your turn…

{sidebar: For this study post  I won’t be focusing too much on the Waiting At The Throne segment as we will cover some of this on Thursday. I’m super excited to run an interview from my personal health/fitness guru Michelle Myers who is sharing some great, practical tips!!!}

 

The Relevant (Bible Study Discussion Questions)

~Take a moment to re-read the Worship At The Throne section starting on page 60. I introduced the name of God, Elohim-Our Creator. In your Bible read Genesis chapter 1 where God masterfully creates our universe. Really take time to read it, don’t just skim it because it is a familiar passage to you. (I’m totally guilty of this kind of thing!)

~Is it hard for you to imagine yourself as part of the “good” creation that God proclaimed when “He said It is Good?” Sometimes this is hard for me to declare over myself. To declare that I, too, am His beautiful creation. Thoughts?

~On Page 61 I suggested that when we obsess over our bodies (when we put ourselves down and when we spend too much time just thinking about it in general) this is a form of idolatry. Idolatry: worshipping anything other than God. Whew! Kind of hard to chew, right? How can you focus TODAY more on your Creator, Elohim, and not obsess over how you feel about your body?

~Check out this verse below from THE VOICE translation

For all that exists originates in Him, comes through Him, and is moving toward Him; so give Him the glory forever. Amen.(Romans 11:36)

In Journal 2 I proposed that we write our names in the blanks. Did you do it? Really? Take a notecard piece of paper and write this verse out by hand the way I have it here. (Sidenote: I love writing verses out by hand because it helps me to learn them!) Put your name in the blanks when you re-write the verse. Here’s my example

 

For ____________ exists originates in Him,______________ comes through Him, and ____________is moving toward Him; so ___________ (will) give Him the glory forever. Amen.(Romans 11:36)

 

Take this sheet of paper and post on your bathroom mirror, on your car dashboard, write it in lipstick, whatever will help make this engrain in your mind and MOST importantly in your HEART.

 

Ok girls. Now go…find a quiet spot and have some meaningful conversation with your King, your Elohim. Then come back and tell us all about what you and Jesus discussed. Cool?

Leave a comment with your thoughts on the questions, video, Bible verses above. Or, if there’s anything else from the chapter you want to discuss, let me know.

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Stress Point Week 3: Body Image — 89 Comments

  1. I have read the first part of this chapter and I wanted to share my opening thoughts. I most identified with Sarah #2. I have tried for the past year or so to lose weight. I need to lose about 40-50 pounds. I started off by trying the gym and eating a little better. That did not work so I gave up. Then I tried weight watchers. I fell off the wagon once again with that one. This last time I was so determined. I started working out and eating way better. i counted calories and freaked if I went over 1,200. I bought book after book after book on weight loss. I soaked up the information trying to learn everything I could about losing weight. But shocker here I failed once again. I know I need to try again. Not just to lose weight but I need to take better care of myself. But I am so afraid that all the work I put into it (working out and changing the way I eat) will not yield any results and I will fail again. I struggle with this everyday. I do not like the way anything looks on my body so I mostly wear comfortable capri pants and t-shirts. It is the only thng I feel comfortable in. Yet somedays I feel like such a slob because that is all i wear.

    Now that I have told you everything I do not llike about myself I will tell you one thing that I do like about my physical apperance: my baby blue eyes. For two reasons: they are a very pretty blue and I have long eye lashes.

    I am looking forward to reading what everyone else struggles with and I am ready for God to go to work on each of us!

    God bless!

    • Oh Kristen. THANK YOU for sharing. Girl! You are not alone in how you feel. Most definitely not alone. As I mentioned in Chapter 2, I think what has helped me recently is to look at making my lifestyle healthy. Not a diet. I’m not saying I do this perfectly every day, trust me. I love my Ben and Jerry’s Ice Cream. But, the less I obsess over weight but think more about being healthy, the better I feel and the more focused I am. Does this help at all? I really think you will like Thursday’s post so hang tight. :)

      • It totally makes sense and I completly agree with you! I need to focus more on being healthy than being “on a diet”. It is so hard sometimes. I have a slight addiction to chocoloate lol. I have got to learn that I can do this. I listened to Joycce Meyer talk about Power thoughts and listening to that is helping. I am also going to read her book Power Thoughts. I also have to give it to God and ask for his help. I know I cannot do it alone!
        I used to drink 1-2 redbulls a day on top of drinking 3-5 cans of soda a day (i know terrible, right?). I am cutting back on the top and having no more than one pop a day at the most. And I am trying no redbull but maybe once a week at the most. Not only is that stuff not good for my body, it is very expensive. My boyfriend is the only one working so he pays for it all and that is not fair to him. I want to start doing better and I am looking forward to what I learn this week from everyone here and God!

  2. Body image is something that I struggled with since I was in elementary school. Earlier this year, I was looking at an old yearbook from fifth grade. The last page was a questionnaire about myself, such as my likes and goals. As a ten year old girl, I wrote that my goal was to lose ten pounds. When I read that, my heart sank. A young girl shouldn’t be concerned with such an issue. I was at a healthy weight, yet I still didn’t feel good enough. Unfortunately, this thought process carried out through my teens and mid-20s.

    In high school and college, I wouldn’t eat lunch – even though I was hungry – because I didn’t want to eat in front of anyone. In a way I felt ashamed that I had to nourish my body. I didn’t want to be vulnerable and show others that basic need. This stems from trying to be perfect, which I now know is impossible here on earth.

    Towards the end of high school, I started to put on weight. I was an appropriate weight for my height and body type, but was nearing to be overweight. Anyway, once I returned home from school, I would over eat, because I was so hungry from not eating lunch. I first deprived my body and then I’d overindulge. These are not healthy habits.

    About ten years ago when I was in college, the Atkins diet was all the rage. The program was based on steps. For the first two weeks, you’re to only eat 20 carbs a day. After that initial time, you’re to gradually increase your carbohydrate intake. I felt it was in my best interest to only ever eat 20 carbs a day, which I did for over a year. I became so weak that climbing a flight of stairs made me dizzy and lightheaded. It’s was ridiculous! I was depriving my body of so many foods that were good for me, but because they didn’t fit within my quota, I avoided them. That was no way to live! I gave up that habit, but years afterwards I felt guilty for eating more than 20 carbs. I’m thankful I didn’t damage or destroy any of my organs. I’m not proud of my actions. I misused my precious body for selfish reasons.

    Once I gave up the 20 carbs a day routine, I turned to exercising. It became an obsession. If I didn’t go to the gym EVERY day and workout for at least two hours, I felt like a worthless and lazy person. If I was sick or unable to go for whatever reason, I’d make up that missed time. I remember working out one day for six straight hours, because I had missed going the two previous days. After doing that for nearly three years, I became exhausted in so many ways and canceled my membership.

    I’m happy to say that for the past four years I’ve drastically changed! I eat balanced meals throughout the day and go on 30 minute walks about five times a week. I now look and feel better than ever! There are days when I look in the mirror and want to criticize the size of my arms or knees, but I catch myself – I just can’t go down that road again. It’s too destructive.

    I’ve shared this information in the hopes of letting women know that you’re not alone. I pray that others don’t allow themselves to suffer in the ways I have. You can change! Acknowledge you’re given just one body. Don’t abuse it. Be grateful. You’re beautiful in the eyes of the Lord.

    ~In regards to the second journal that asks about something I love about my body: I love my hands! I use them for creative purposes, such as sewing, baking, writing, and playing the piano. With them, I can embrace people and animals, and offer a helping hand. God knew of my desire to be creative and helpful.

    ~I agree with the words written on page 61. My obsession was a form of idolatry. I can shift my focus off my body and look towards Elohim by seeing that He created me beautifully and I should appreciate that I have a fully functional body.

    • Bree! Thank you for sharing this. I was like, uh huh–been there, when reading your story. But, now that I’m focusing on being healthy and treating my body as God’s creation, things are better. Your words encouraged me!

      Hugs!

      • You’re welcome, Sarah. I’m glad my story encouraged you. All three of your case studies gave me that same “uh huh–been there” thoughts. You’ve also encouraged me. I agree, by focusing on being healthy and treating our bodies as God’s precious creation, things are much better. Parts of my body I once criticized, I now embrace. I do have my slip ups, but having a thankful heart stops me in my tracks. Hugs to you, too!

    • Bree, I identify a LOT with your story (and yours, Sarah). I’ll write more in my own post… but thank you for sharing :) It is encouraging to hear stories of body-peace. I am at the beginning of my own exercise-obsessed-recovery and it helps to know that others have walked similar roads to healing.

  3. ~After reading the girlfriend case studies in Stress Point, do you identify at all? No, I dont idenify at all.

    ~As I mentioned at the beginning of the chapter, let’s put aside topics about how the media portrays women and how it effects our personal image of our own bodies. I’d like our focus to be with what we can change, which is how we see our bodies in light of Elohim, our Creator. It is so hard for me, like I already said, to talk about this subject in such a personal manner. Is it hard for you, too? If so, why?

    This is VERY hard for me, I am crying as i wright this, . I got picked on so much when i was little and even now i am afriad of what people are thinking in their mind. I feel like i dont look good in anything.

    Thank you Bree and Sarah for saying to not beat ourselves up for not exercising for a day. I am still having issues with tthat although I am getting better, I feel like i need to exercise 7 days a week which i know i dont HAVE to I can take a day off and it will be OK!

    Im sorry I am going to have to come back and write more later I am having such a hard time with this. My autism testing is today as well so i am worked up about that. Sorry!

    • Do not feel like you need to share everything at once. If it is hard for you take some time to gather your thoughts and then come back. Only share what you feel comfortable with.
      I too have felt bad if I missed working out for a day. I do not work out right now (although i know i need to start). But when i did I would get so down on myself if i skipped a day of working out. But it is okay to take a break. And beating yourself up about it is not good. Prayers to you!

    • Meg, honey, you warm my heart with all of your sweet vulnerability here on this site. Thank you. Oh how I’m praying that this week’s topic won’t upset you but be a big breakthrough for you. This is what I pray for all of us. Let us know how things went with your test, ok?

      Hugs!

      • Thank you Sarah.. The test was really hard! So emotioanlly draining I came home and laid down for a bit… But its done now and i should know results by August!

        I am going to come back tommorrow so i can finish gathering my thoughts.. But i did want to share the one thing that I LOVE about myself and that is my hair. I love the color (brown) although my mom has colored it and put hightlights into it.. in the past. But it is soooo thick and I love it! Alot of people say that they love my hair cause its soo thick and when its long i can do sooo much with it! Thank you Lord for giving me thci k hair!!

        • Oh I love it when people have thick hair. So jealous…in a good way. :) I know your hair is gorgeous, Meg!!!

        • So happy you’re finished with your tests, Meg. I prayed for you several times last night and today. I actually pray for all us every day. This is only the third week, but I feel so connected with everyone, it seems we’ve been friends for a long time.

          • Thank you for praying Bree! Yes i feel the same way! I pray when ya’ll come to my mind! Do you have facebook?

          • Thank you, Meg.

            I do have a FB account, but don’t really use it. I don’t post photos or messages. I just keep it to see photos of family members.

  4. I have been listening to a lot of joyce meyer lately and let me tell you she has some awesome things to say! I am listening to a series right now on Power thoughts. It is about renewing our mind to think good thoughts. I think this goes along with last weeks self-image topic and this weeks body image topic. I would encourage anyone who has negative thoughts and wants to learn how to train the mind to think better to listen to this series. She also has a book titled Power thoughts.

    I just felt like I should share that with you in the hopes that if you are struggling with your thoughts today it might help!

    Have a blessed day!

  5. I was listening to this song (which I have listened to many times before and I LOVE it) but it just hit me today and I wanted to share it with you!

    Carrie Underwood
    Nobody Ever Told You

    Take off all the makeup, girl
    Shine your light, show the world
    Don’t be shy, don’t be scared
    You don’t have to hide under there

    Let’s throw away all the magazines
    Turn off the static on the TV
    Wish you could see yourself the way I do

    [Chorus:]
    Nobody ever told you
    Nobody ever told you
    You shine like a diamond
    Glitter like gold
    And you need to know
    What nobody ever told you
    Yeah
    La la la la la

    Mirror mirror on the wall
    Acting like it knows it all
    Tells you lies of vanity
    It doesn’t care what’s underneath

    All hung up on the negative
    Doesn’t have to be the way it is
    Wish you could see yourself the way I do

    [Chorus:]
    Nobody ever told you
    Yeah, nobody ever told you
    You shine like a diamond
    Glitter like gold
    And you need to know
    What nobody ever told you

    Na na na na…

    [Bridge:]
    Free as a bird up on a wire
    Just like a flower growing wild
    You’re beautiful, you’re beautiful

    [Chorus:]
    Nobody ever told you,
    Yeah, nobody ever told you
    You shine like a diamond
    Glitter like gold
    And you need to know
    What nobody ever told you

    I thought this fit perfectly for what we are discussing this week and the information from last week!

    :-)

  6. Just wanted to say quickly that one thing I really dont like about my body is my smile.. mostly because after i got my braces off when i was 15 or 16 i kept sucking my thumb and now I hate my smile cause i dont have straight teeth anymore. But I am so encouraged by all of my friends at my church and even my family who say thye LOVE my smile and also friend from another blog I have been on… it blesses my heart to hear them say that and I know that they are telling the truth!

  7. Hey everyone! Just wanted to encourage you to stray away from the negative about your body for this post. Let’s keep it to what we love, ok? I totally want everyone to share what they struggle with so we can encourage each other but I’d hate for us to spend our time writing what we hate. Make sense? But, please feel free to share what is on your heart.

    Major Hugs!

  8. As I mentioned at the beginning of the chapter, let’s put aside topics about how the media portrays women and how it effects our personal image of our own bodies. I’d like our focus to be with what we can change, which is how we see our bodies in light of Elohim, our Creator. It is so hard for me, like I already said, to talk about this subject in such a personal manner. Is it hard for you, too? If so, why?

    Yes, It is hard for me… I got picked on as a child so now as an adult even though people dont say anything to me i feel like in their mind they are saying something but just not saying anything to me. One of my friends said to me “you are what you eat” which was hurful but it is true. She is trying to get me to eat more fruits and vegtables and drink more water. which i know i need to do I just hate having someone telling me what to do! When i was younger i wasnt pushed to drink water and eat fruits and vegtables so for me its learning a new thing! I also live by myself so its easy for me to say.. no one is watching what i eat so i dont care what i eat. Although i know it says in Romans that we our bodies are temles of the holy spirit.

    I have been getting better about not critizing myself for not exercising for a day.. I was in weight watchers about 5 years ago and lost 100 pounds but ended up gaining all of it back. When i was doing weight watchers i was runnung 2 times a day about 8 miles. So i have felt like i need to do that again.. But trying to tell myself that exercising even for 30 minutes is good.

    I need to be better at what i put into my body.. So please pray for me in this area.

    I sometimes feel like i need to be perfect in this area of eating.. cause my friends tell me that this is bad for you and that is bad for you but i see other Christians eating or drinking it. So i guess in a nutshell i feel like i get critizied no matter what i eat. For example i like to eat yogurt but i remember one time i was eating it in front of a friend and she said that kind of yogur isnt good for you. So im thinkking what is then?

    I also used to be like Bree.. Not eating lunch and then going home and overeating. I am getting much better though and for that I am thankful.

    I hope this all makes sense!

    • Meg,
      This all makes such perfect sense. Like I said to someone else, I was thinking to my self, “uh-huh…been there done that!” with everything you said. I think the best thing to do is find balance. Just like I talked about in the Waiting At The Throne section. (more about this on Thursday.)

      Hugs!

  9. ~Is it hard for you to imagine yourself as part of the “good” creation that God proclaimed when “He said It is Good?” Sometimes this is hard for me to declare over myself. To declare that I, too, am His beautiful creation. Thoughts?

    Yes This is hard for me to declare overmyself.. because i say me Good? But i am a sinner? But we are all sinners… yet God calls us Good? When i read the passage where is says he looked over all that he had made and it was very good i think of the animals and flowers and landscape, mammels etc.. How can they sin? they cant right?

    So for me I have to say that How can Good call me Good when i am a sinner?

    • Meg,
      I’m so glad you brought this up. Such a good point. I believe that when we are IN CHRIST, saved by the blood that Jesus shed on the cross and we make the declaration that HE is our KING, God really does see us as good. I also see it as Him looking at us as a doting Father, adoring His own creation. When we are washed clean by the blood of Jesus and we declare Him as our savior, He no longer sees our sin.

      Does this help?

  10. Journal #1 – Question #1- How do you identify with my own girlfriend case studies? Is there one story in particular that rings true for you? I say I relate to case study #3, I don’t like pictures of myself, I never really did. I always feel that I look weird in them or that I don’t look as pretty as the other girls that maybe in the picture with me. I never really had any issues with trying on clothes which I thank God, although I never liked wearing a bathing suit but since I have lost some weight I feel much more confident wearing one.

    I was always some what chubby or the chubby one growing up but thankfully I never let it get so far as eating to much or not eating enough or exercising to much. I don’t know what it feels like to struggle with these types of things but I will most definatly pray for the girls who are dealing with such issues or did deal with these issues. I will continue to focus on God with my small issue of not liking how I look in pictures as well. Just in the last few weeks with starting this Bible study I am starting to really focus more on God then on my issues. I like knowing that there is such a wonderful man like Jesus Christ who loves me for me and not who everyone else is.

    Journal #2 Question 3- Write out three things you love about your body.
    – I like my Hair it is a pretty blond color with natural streaks of dark brown in it
    – I like my Eyes they are really pretty Blue yellow color
    -I have long legs

    • Jodi!
      Girl, I’m with you about the picture thing. (I think I wrote about this in the book…) Your words are encouraging to ME! You are right, such a small issue compared to our BIG God who loves us. I love all the things you shared about what you love about your body. Awesome girl!

    • Jodi, I was happy to read that you never turned to drastic measures, such as eating too little or too much, or over-exercising. I also pray for those who have these struggles.

      Like you, since starting this Bible study, I’m focusing more on God. I saw a video by Joyce Meyer on the importance of trusting God to overcome fear and anxiety. She mentioned that worrying about things is useless, as it doesn’t change anything, and trusting God is the greatest privileged we have. If you’re interested, you can watch the video here: http://www.joycemeyer.org/BroadcastHome.aspx?video=Power_Thoughts_%E2%80%93_Pt_5

      Also, I came across something that I thought was really cool – an acronym for the word faith: Forsaking all, I trust Him.

  11. ~On Page 61 I suggested that when we obsess over our bodies (when we put ourselves down and when we spend too much time just thinking about it in general) this is a form of idolatry. Idolatry: worshipping anything other than God. Whew! Kind of hard to chew, right? How can you focus TODAY more on your Creator, Elohim, and not obsess over how you feel about your body?

    Praying to God before we start our day and ask him for help.
    Have scripture handy when we do get tempted to start down that path.
    Spend some time thanking him for his creation and all that he has made!

  12. Ladies

    I am literally jumping for Joy!!!I am literally 150 dollars away from getting all my suport in for Alaska!! PRASIE THE LORD!!

  13. I was thinking about this yesterday. We are all works of art. No one piece of art is like any other piece of art. That is what makes it stand out. It is unique and beautiful in its own way. We have to start thinking of ourselves as gods piece of art. If all art was the same it would be pretty boring. The same thing goes with us. So think of yourself as a unique piece of god created art!
    Have a blessed holiday everyone! Happy birthday America!

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  15. I am doing another Bible Study and I came across this verse that goes with this weeks study.
    1 Corinthians 3:16,17 Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you. 17 If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him; for God’s temple is sacred, and you are that temple

          • That sounds great! We should chexk it out and do it together? Bree did you get my email….or did I even send one? Lol I cannot remember! Hope you had a great day!

          • Hi Kristen, that sounds great! I did receive your e-mail, but haven’t had a chance to write back, yet. I’ll send you a reply later tonight. :)

          • Not a problem at all. Just wanted to make sure you got it as sometimes my phone does not work. i usually reply to you on my phone. We can talk more about that study! Maybe you and I could pick a book of our own and do a study together? Let me know what you think! :-)

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  17. Oh, body image! As I said in my reply on Bree’s post, I am a recovering exercise/nutrition-obsessed girl. I never had a diagnosed disorder, per say, but I would become anxious if I exercised less than an hour or ate over my allotted amount of calories. I even used scripture to fuel my addiction thinking, “I am glorifying God by taking care of myself and eating healthy!” I was self-conscious about my weight, even when I was skinny. I hated any sort of comment being made that drew attention to my weight or eating habits. I remember one time a few years ago I felt like I needed to take a break from exercise and had to talk myself into not running for two days in a row. I held on to my idol so tightly, even when I knew it wasn’t emotionally or spiritually healthy. As I got stressed with school and other life stuff I found myself overeating. I would feel guilty and reduce my intake the next day or log extra miles to make up for it. It turned into a vicious cycle. One time I even tried to make myself throw up because I felt sick from eating too many sweets. In my mind it seemed justified because I felt physically ill. That one incident shook me to the core, and made me wake up. I made a decision that I was not going to let this rule my life and prayed for help. The Lord provided me an older friend, who is also a counselor specializing in eating disorders, and together we have worked on many things.

    For the past eight months I have taken time off of exercise and let go of my eating habits. I have good days and bad days. I still overeat at times, but I will not allow myself to try to compensate with exercise or starvation. Instead, I focus on making a healthier choice at the next meal. On a daily basis I feel better not living in fear of gaining weight, but I still feel pangs of failure when I see old acquaintances and realize the last time they saw me I was 30 pounds lighter. My close friends have been so supportive throughout my journey. I am incredibly thankful for them.

    I could write a book about body-image and self-worth, and probably have from all the journaling I do! Writing has been such a helpful tool in my healing, as well as the openness here in the blog. THANKS! It gives me hope :)

    THREE things I love about myself are: my reddish/brown hair, my eyes that match my hair, and my skin.

    P.S. You can also use dry erase markers on your mirror to write verses. It wipes off easier than lipstick :)

    • Sarah! Girl, thank you for sharing your story. I’m so glad that you’ve found a counselor to worth through things. I’m with you, I have good days and bad days as far as my eating habits and body image, just like anything else. Keeping focused on my King.

      Ps…thanks for the tip of the dry erase markers…:)

    • I totally related to your story, Sarah Cal. I also couldn’t stand it when people would make comments about my weight or eating habits. My mom would constantly compare me to the singer Karen Carpenter and her death related to anorexia. While I didn’t go to the same extremes that Karen did, my behavior was just as bad. I didn’t treat my body as God’s temple (1 Corinthians 3:16-17). I’m so happy you have a friend/counselor that can help you! You’re in my prayers.

      • Thanks, Bree, and thank you again for sharing your story. I’ve made a ton of progress… and I am so thankful. I think this is an issue that circulates more than people realize. I didn’t even know that it was a problem I was struggling with myself.

        Also. I hung out with an old friend today who has seen me through my weight ups and downs. She told me that I seemed “lighter” than the last time she saw me. I asked her to explain and she said that I was “less burdened, relaxed” and that she “saw sparks” as I talked. How encouraging! These changes are worth it. I will keep trusting in God to heal my heart and treating myself well :)

        • You’re welcome, Sarah Cal, and thank you for sharing yours. I believe by sharing our own struggles, other people have the opportunity to see that they’re not alone and therefore have the encouragement to learn and change.

          I’m so happy you’re making progress! I had a huge smile on my face as I read the lovely compliment your friend gave you today. Indeed, when you don’t carry a huge burden, you’re definitely “lighter.” Such beautiful words!

  18. -Journal 4 – Finding Focus on Him Alone – 7/5/12
    Question #1- Does the phrase “get over yourself” sound harsh to you? If so why? If not, how does it help you to redirect your bocus back to the Creator? I don’t think it is harsh at all, I wish someone would tell me to get over myself more often. This phrase makes me realize there are more important things in this work then what is going on with me. Especially if it is something minor like what I look like or what I don’t have that others do. When someone tells you you are to self involved it kind of knocks you off your high horse and back to reality and to remind you to focus more on God. It’s not about us it is about the Lord. When I start to be come selfish I will just tell myself to get over myself and pray to God to bring my heart back to him.
    Question #2 –Read through Ephesians 2:10 several times. What are some ways that you have allowed your body image issues to overtake your attitude toward life in general and keep you from living out what great plans God has for you? When you are so self-conscious you may avoid interacting with new people or going to a party. You may close in on yourself and may miss out on some great opportunities.
    Question #3 –How can you hand those issues straight over to Jesus? What benefits do you see in allowing your focus to turn back to the creator rather than on how you see yourself in the mirror? Continually pray to God and worship him. He wants to hear your issues; he wants to guide you through life. When you give everything to God he takes your focus away from yourself and puts it on him and others. The negative thoughts we get from the mirror are only going to hurt us. Let God help you with this, he loves us so much. It makes my own heart burst to realize how much he loves me.

    • Jodi! I feel like a proud teacher. Sounds like you had some awesome conversations with the Lord while doing this journal section. Yay!

  19. This past school year my way of feeling in control was to control when and what I ate…. sometimes it was going really well, other times I was hardly eating. When things would change or spin a little more out of control I latched onto something I could control… losing weight by putting less food into me… and honestly the most weight I have to lose would probably be around 20lbs… more than that and I think I would look really unhealthy…

    Now that the school year has ended I am slowly becoming more consistent with nutrition while feeling as though I can restart my body as well. I’m slowly making changes and I think that that is the only way it will stick. I’m not where I should be but I’m on my way. It’s interesting to be a teacher teaching kids how to eat healthy and exercise and not necessarily practice it myself. Then I wonder how many teachers in my position actually are practicing what they preach… not many… there are very few people in this world who have it all together. (They might show that they do, but really nobody knows what they’re doing :) ) I’m working on it everyday and honestly think I connect better with these teens because I show them I’m not all put together, that I take risks, make mistakes, and am trying to figure all this out too. I think this gives my crew freedom to let me into their lives to help them figure out how to make healthy decisions. We figure it out together… they teach me a lot and I don’t think they have any idea :)

    I recently memorized Psalm 139:14 and whenever I have a yucky thought its been popping into my mind. I am so thankful for this!

    • I love that verse, Amy. I wrote it in my book, along with some other encouraging verses. Yes, when yucky thoughts come to my mind, I shift that focus and go to the Lord.

    • Amy,
      First of all, thank you for being a teacher. We need teachers so very badly and it sounds like you are a GREAT one!

      Also…stay tuned for more of Psalm 139 with in the book. It is one of my favorites!

  20. I am incredibly fortunate that I have grown up eating healthy for the majority of my life. My parents decided to change their eatin habits when I was in elementary school. My habits changed gradually over time. I want through the chubby stage in middle school and I was picked on a lotfor other reasons as well. I have also been involved I sports since then so exercise is integrated into my life. Chafing your eating styles changes your life. I know a lot of people talk about craving and such. I have craving and my family does one “cheat” meal a week so that we have something to lookforward to. Also there are certain foods that my body will not tolerate me eating anyone. Ex: fast food. I ate chickfila a couple week ago and was pretty sick the next day. You can make healthy food that tastes good, just be committed to changing your lifestyle.

    I identifie best with Sarah #3. I am at a healthy weight but when I am not training for races, I fell like I let myself go because I am not in really good shape. I am kind of obsessive and will not let myself above a specific weight.

    • Ashely! I love the “cheat” meal concept. I’ve done that for years now and it is nice to have an indulgence every now and then!

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  22. This week for me was all about being intentional- intentional about my thoughts towards myself, intentional about rejoicing, and intentional about observing. Sarah, you have used this passage twice so far and everytime it smacks me in the face!! (Ok Lord, I’m listening) Colossians 3:23-24, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.” I work at a physical therapy clinic and we have this GIANT mirror (the not so skinny mirror!) I was walking towards it, saw myself, and heard my head say “blek!” what immediately happened was, “REALLY?! This is your first thought? What about Me?” What a humbling experience. I was taking seeing myself in the mirror out of context. It’s not a FASHION mirror- rather it is a THERAPY mirror. This mirror transforms and that is what happened with me. I realized that my immediate reaction of turning up my nose was turning my nose against God, against HIS creation. If I am boldly procclaiming that I am in disgust of God’s creation, doesn’t that mean that I am really saying God’s design isn’t good? We are made in His image (Genesis 1:27). He used His creativity to knit us in our mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13, Isaiah 44:24, Jeremiah 1:5). His reassurance in us, in His creation, in His vision is scattered throughout His Word, His letter to us. I love that! I love that when I start to have a bad day, or a bad moment rather than letting the moment or thought continue I just have to turn my eyes upon Jesus! What I really took away from this week was just to remember that I am God’s creation. I have to take my eyes off of me, off of inward thinking and turn it to UPward thinking, to Christ, to my Elohim!! He looks at us with fondness, with divine attraction. If we take our eyes from self and onto our Elohim, I believe we will see this come to fruition, we will see His attraction to us.
    As I’m writing this a verse keeps popping into my head. Proverbs 22:6, “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” I realize we are not children, but just as we did in our journal and in the above example, let’s substitute our age:
    Train your __________ in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
    Now let’s do the same with our name:
    Train _________________ in the way (s)he should go, and when (s)he is old he will not turn from it.
    A lesson I see from Sarah is- it’s not about us, rather it’s is our King through us. If we start to develop the habit of seeing our King FIRST and less of us then He comes through. If we train our hearts and minds to see Him first then we will not depart from this habit.
    I hope what I learned from this week gives you all some encouragement. I so love seeing how everyone is encouraging to every ladies post! I really see God doing great work with us, with you! Have a great Sunday!!

    • Shari! Girlfriend!!! Amazing. Couldn’t have said it better myself. I love what you said about Proverbs 22:6. It does, in fact, take time to train our minds towards an outward (UPward) focus on God. Years of putting ourselves down, putting down our Creator, takes time to undo. But we are all in this together, right?!

      Great stuff!!!

      • I loved everything you said, Shari! Your realization that the therapy mirror aids in transforming people physically, but it transformed you mentally and spiritually was poignant. Yes, I agree, remembering we’re God’s precious creation is the way to live.

  23. I don’t know where to put this. I just need some prayers. If I had more self control, I don’t think I would be eating… Trying to see that God sees me perfectly.

    • Look at it not so much as trying to control what you eat but looking for ways to eat to be healthy. Praying right now! Father God, you know our friend’s needs on her heart. Speak to her in a very special way and show her how much you love her. Amen!

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